I'M NOT COMFORTABLE WITH PENETRATION
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Please be aware that this website is not intended to provide medical advice or engage in the practice of medicine. I am a certified sexologist recognized by the American Board of Sexology, here to relay some of my opinions
Communicating your feelings about intimacy and comfort levels is important in any relationship. In my opinion, some steps you can take to express your discomfort with penetration are:
1. **Choose the Right Moment**: Find a private, relaxed setting where both of you can talk openly without distractions.
2. **Be Honest and Direct**: Start by expressing your feelings honestly. You might say something like, "I want to talk about our physical relationship because it's important to me that we're both comfortable."
3. **Use “I” Statements**: Frame your feelings from your perspective to avoid sounding accusatory. For example, "I feel uncomfortable with penetration right now" instead of "You make me uncomfortable."
4. **Explain Your Reasons (if you feel comfortable)**: If you're willing, share why you feel this way—whether it's due to past experiences, personal preferences, or emotional readiness.
5. **Emphasize Mutual Comfort**: Highlight that mutual comfort is crucial in a healthy relationship and that it's okay for both partners to have boundaries.
6. **Suggest Alternatives**: If you're open to it, suggest other forms of intimacy that make you feel more comfortable.
7. **Encourage Open Dialogue**: Invite your partner to share their thoughts and feelings on the topic as well; this can help foster understanding and connection.
8. **Reassure Your Partner**: Let them know that your discomfort isn’t a reflection of their desirability or worth but rather about where you are at personally.
9. **Be Prepared for Their Reaction**: Understand they may need time to process what you've shared, so be patient and open to continued conversation.
Remember, a supportive partner will appreciate your honesty and prioritize both of your comfort levels in the relationship.
Let's keep it short and sweet today but remember to join us next week at SP Pleasures Couch for more insightful discussions with a glass of wine in hand or whatever helps you unwind. See you next time!
Secret Pleasure